I Had Bought The Myth

I began my journey as a parent in 1988 for the first time.  The next child was in 1991.  My last child was in 1995.

I had spent five years of my life at UCSD before children.

I believed everything could be learned from research.  Everything.

I had studied some child development at UCSD and some educational theories.

When I was pregnant with my first, I read the bible of pregnancy, What to Expect When Expecting.

That should have been my first clue that books cannot teach everything.

I collected child development books Your One Year Old, Your Two Old, and so on from world famous Ivy League child development experts.

I read the The Magic Years.

I stayed at home with my children full time until they were in high school assuming parental involvement could prevent any behavior I and/or society deemed as unacceptable.

My third child died before his first birthday, who could have seen that coming?

That changed me forever.

I now began reading books on to help your children through grief.

I read any and all "experts" that assured me I could raise my boys so they would carry no baggage or issues into adulthood.

Children defy any set formula because the variants are endless.

Now that I am in the midlife phase and my boys are in their twenties I see I had been delusional.

There is no perfect parent.  There are no perfect children.  No one has a perfect life.

I see glimpses in my boys that they will grow into good men, that they are good men in many ways.  

I have a difficult time seeing them as men but I'm working on that.

Words, Words, Words

Motivated:  ambitious, committed, dedicated, industrious, inspired, and keen.

Hard working:  diligent, indefatigable, energetic, industrious, and conscientious.

Dependable:  consistant, reliable, responsible, trustworthy, stable, steadfast, and unfailing.

Compassionate:  considerate, kind, kind-hearted, tender, and understanding.

Creative problem solver:  this phrase speaks for itself.

Dedicated:  determined, focused, purposeful, and unwavering.

These are a small sample of the descriptive words I discovered in my research.

Positive Resume Words

I need to rewrite my resume and I'm calling on my blog buddies for positive terminology and best skill sets.

Use all your writing talent talent to help me write a new resume that gets me a job and there may be a lovely treat involved.

I need you.

I need your words!

I need your experience!

Please help me out!

Pretty please.

Pretty please ice cream and whipped cream and a cherry on top!!

NOMNOM!!